You are taught that you are wonderfully and marvelously made. This means that, as far as God is concerned, you are perfect. Your shape, your height, your weight, your hair, your complexion, even your foot size is perfect. God endowed you with everything needed for an abundant, joyous, successful life. You are intelligent, talented, sufficiently gifted for fulfilling the purpose, dreams, and ambitions He placed within you. You were set up to “have life and have it more abundantly.”
…as life unfolded…. you felt and believed that you are everything but wonderful and marvelous. Adversities, trials, mistakes, racism, sexism, abuse, and society’ stereotypes have left you feeling battered, wounded, defeated, and worthless.
Your self-esteem and confidence have been greatly deflated and tarnished. You were made to feel incapable of achieving anything so you abandoned your dreams and aspirations. Life seems like a big joke, a major disappointment. An abundant life… please…what is that?
…there is something within that won’t let you give up, will not allow you to lie down and die. There is a yell that only you can hear; that keeps telling you to press on. It’s saying that there is more…more waiting to come out, that your dreams and desires are still possible despite your experiences.
Believe me I completely understand how you feel. I have been there and some days I feel I’m still there.
I was told by my coach, Tasha Scott, that your mess can become your message, perhaps even your ministry. I am proof that this adage is true.
Growing up was very trying for me. There was not much positive reinforcement and encouragement. Often, I was belittled by family, friends, and even church members. I was often made to feel like I was stupid, ugly, and incapable and that my opinions and values did not matter.
These and other circumstances left me deeply scarred. I had no self-confidence, no self-esteem. I didn’t think I was worthy of love or success and I felt that everything I did, I did wrong. I would not speak up for or defend myself. I didn’t know how to love myself. I held myself back from so many opportunities.
… through all of this, there was something within that wouldn’t let me settle in that space. A better self-image was fighting to be released. I believe this is the case for everyone who needs healing in these areas. There is someone fighting to be released.
In the Christian church, we are often taught that sometimes our trials and tribulations are not only for us, but we go through certain things so we are better equipped to help and strengthen someone else.
If any of this resonates with you, follow me as I provide guidance on overcoming the obstacles and adversities in your life. I will provide the tools and guidance needed to develop your self-esteem and confidence. I want to help you believe again, believe in yourself, your dreams, your gifts, and talents.
Yes, regardless of what you have experienced, an abundant life is still possible. After all, God tells us that your latter will be better than you former. You do believe that, don’t you?
One post at a time, I want to help you with the following:
- Personal development— address issues such as improving your self-esteem and confidence, reclaiming and fulfilling your purpose.
- Spiritual development—obtain a better understanding of your Christian journey, your growth and development.
- Travel—explain how travel causes you to step out of your comfort zone, how it stretches you, and expands your mind.
- Adversity and conflict— discover wise, appropriate ways to deal with it.
I am Ora Cook, a social worker with over 30 years of experience and was called into the ministry around 1998. I’m an introvert who was born and raised in New York City. I have two wonderful children. I went to college in North Carolina where I studied business administration. I also have master degrees in social work and practical theology.
When I’m not working or writing, I enjoy going to the beach and pool even though I am not much of a swimmer. I find water soothing and relaxing. It helps me to feel closer to God.
One of my hobbies is traveling, especially internationally. I have a creative spirit, love the use of color, particularly red. I’m slowing trying to get back into sewing, something I gave up when my children were very young.
Reading is something I also enjoy. It expands my mind and helps me to reach for the impossible.